Counseling For Grief and Loss
You might be wondering why you would go to a counselor when someone you love dies. In a way, it doesn’t make sense. Nobody can bring them back, so it may seem like nobody can help. The thing is, grief can be an incredibly confusing and lonely time in your life. The unbearable pain of wanting to see your loved one is the biggest part, but there is even more. Have you had thoughts like these?
* nobody understands
* everybody’s acting normal
* I can’t believe the things people say
* people seem to be avoiding me
* people act weird around me
* nobody will talk about him (or her)
* I can’t seem to get over it
* I don’t feel normal
* the rest of the world is going on and I can’t
* I am so angry!
Sometimes it seems that society, our friends, coworkers, even our families just aren’t ready or able to acknowledge or understand what to do when someone dies. What could be worse than losing someone you love so much? When the world seems to act as if it never even happened.
Things Nobody Told You
It’s not uncommon to feel very unprepared for the huge changes and problems that come along with someone dying. For many couples, for example, a death can put a big strain on marriage. Some people feel so overwhelmed by it they wind up divorced. It’s not inevitable, but there are some rocky times that different grieving styles can cause. Other painful things people might not expect are feeling disconnected from people you have been close to, even your own kids at times. Or the guilt that can come from doing ordinary daily activities.
If you want help I’m here.
I can join you as you sort through this time in your life, and support you when you are looking for something or someone to help you through this. You won’t have to commit to coming more than once if it’s not for you. Everyone’s different. I may help you find some resources that would be helpful.
What If It’s Been A Long Time?
There is no time limit on grief. I will never judge you for hurting over the loss of someone you love whether it was two months ago or two decades (or five!). We all have our own timetable, and sometimes we are criticized if we don’t seem to be getting back to “normal” soon enough. It can make it even harder if it’s been a very long time. But I promise to respect your loss and your pain no matter how long it’s been. People are irreplaceable and valuable, so no amount of time can take away the loss. However, there are ways to get back into life in a meaningful way that can help people to feel more connected, more energetic, more like themselves. If you would like to explore those possibilities, please call me or schedule an appointment online.