If you are hurting…
People seek out grief counseling for many reasons. If you don’t know where to turn, if you feel like nobody understands, or if you just can’t seem to get back into your life, you may be looking for some help.
Grief counseling can be one good step to help you sort through the confusion, pain, numbness and everything a loss brings. You are not alone.
I provide grief counseling through groups, one on one sessions, in person as well as over telephone and internet. For more information, or to schedule a session, please contact me. I will answer any questions you have.
How can counseling help?
Sometimes it’s hard to imagine how counseling can be of any help. Of course no counselor can take away the pain of your loss, so why even go? But it is sometimes surprising how many other things can be made lighter through the counseling process.
In fact, not being under pressure to feel better can be one of them. Everyone has their own timetable for finding their way after the death of someone they love. If you feel like others want you to be the “same old” you, that can be an added burden.
An additional way therapy can help is to allow you to untangle and understand the many facets of your life that are impacted. For some it’s the difficulty of dealing with well-meaning friends or family. For others it’s the deep loneliness that can hit you whether you are in a crowded room or home alone. You may feel like you have lost yourself.
What I won’t do
I will not tell you how to feel. Nor will I try to “teach” you how to grieve. I won’t give you scientific information about certain stages you are supposed to go through. There is plenty of information out there, and much of it is helpful. But sometimes it seems like the books and articles are focused on “grief” when what you’re really thinking about is the person who died. Your mind is on the empty spots, the future that’s suddenly changed, or the strange land that used to feel like your life.
Is it time to call?
If it’s hard to get out of bed, hard to focus on work, or you just don’t know if you will ever feel like you again, then you might try a session or two of counseling. If you find it helps, then you can decide whether continuing with counseling makes sense for you.