How Can I Help?
Tired of trying and waiting to feel loved, secure, and happy in your relationship? I have good news.
When you have an experienced third party in the room, things can really change. Probably the most important thing I offer couples is a third pair of eyes and ears. I translate what you can’t get each other to hear. And I do it in a quiet, safe space where each person is honored.
The problem with putting off the solution is, things tend to get worse. Getting help early can spell the difference between just tolerating each other and feeling truly connected. It can also help you reverse course and avoid losing the relationship altogether.
Ask yourself: what’s likely to happen if nothing changes?
Marriage Counseling: Guidance and Information Make a Big Difference!
The field of marriage counseling has really improved over the past 20 years. Time, experience and research have greatly expanded what we can do to help couples thrive. I have extensive training in both Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Gottman (Level3) Therapy. Both are highly researched, proven methods to help couples overcome problems and reconnect.
How Does Couples Counseling Work?
Couples counseling works by providing structure, along with guidance to work on resolving your disagreements. It helps you zero in on what you’re missing.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) offers a structured approach. It helps you understand what’s happening inside your relationship. Your emotions are often a guide that tells you what is important in a situation. They guide your behavior and decision-making in general, and especially with your partner. EFT focuses on helping recognize your underlying feelings. Then it gives you tools for expressing them effectively, and for choosing actions that have a positive impact. Communication becomes more clear and helpful.
Therapy using Gottman techniques helps couples to practice new ways of communicating. It’s a very clear and reliable way to learn to fight fair, resolve longstanding problems and focus on reconnecting with fun, affection, and all the good stuff that brought you together.
The Lasting Impact of Marriage Counseling with Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
The overwhelming majority of couples who enter EFT therapy (and stick with it) find lasting improvements. Even more exciting is that with this kind of counseling, couples continue to improve long after finishing therapy. Why? Because it doesn’t only target your “problems” — it targets your patterns. It targets the WAY you look at problems, and each other. When these improve, you can tackle old and new problems in a better way.
“It’s Not The Years In Your Life, It’s the Life In Your Years.”
When you hear about a couple that’s been together for decades, there’s no tactful way to find out how many of those years were good. You also can’t ask how many were terrible, or how many were on autopilot. But the question is a huge one. What kind of relationship do you want?
Questions? See a list of Frequent Asked Questions on this page. You can learn all about how to schedule, what a session is like, rates, and why I don’t take insurance. If you have other questions, email is the best way to ask: [email protected]
Stop Waiting For It To Get Better. Schedule A Session!
One small step can put you on a path to improve your marriage.