“If nothing changes, nothing changes.” I don’t know who first said that, but it challenges one of the biggest obstacles to a better life: waiting. Some people call it “hope” — hoping things will get better — without a plan. Other people call it fear — holding on to what you have because change sounds […]
Scrooged About Being Single This Season?
For some people, being single feels worse during the holidays. One reasons is likely the number of get-togethers. From Thanksgiving Dinner all the way through to New Year’s Day brunches, there is a lot going on. If you don’t like going alone to one cook-out pool party in July, then November through January can be […]
10 Ways To Beat Holiday Stress
It’s A Terrible Life. George Bailey thought all the stuff he didn’t get to do, or that was wrong, added up to a terrible life. The staircase knob that kept coming off was a constant reminder of all the little crap that never gets done. It’s so annoying. It’s distracting. It makes life harder. […]
Are You Afraid To Eat The Last Piece of Pizza?
You Know You Want It Go on, admit it: that last piece of pizza sitting on the cardboard, still kind of hot and bubbly and cheesy, looks darn good. Mmmmm. If you were alone right now, it would be so gone. You may even be full, but you would still eat it. And yet, you […]
Ten Clues Your Relationship Is Causing Your Depression
What Causes Depression? Depression has been linked to many factors, including genetics, medications, trauma, and various life issues. There are probably more possible “suspects” than there are treatments. It can be helpful to look at everything when trying to narrow it down. You need to find what will finally give you relief from the emptiness […]
Everything Old Is New Again
Have you ever had the feeling that you know everything there is to know about your husband (boyfriend, wife, whatever)? What if there was a magic potion you could take to reverse that? To bring a sense of “Vuja De” into your life? I would define it for you, but it will be more fun […]
This Mindset Shift Could Help You Feel More Confident
If you run a great race, feel wonderful, don’t pull any muscles, enjoy yourself and finish in the middle, did you win? Most people would say no. Unless I am first, or in the top few, then am I a success? I don’t know. It’s up to the individual to decide that. I kinda like […]
Fighting Over Something Stupid Again?
It Seems So Silly People who come to me for couples counseling are so often frustrated because they keep having battles over the dumbest things ever. Like when something happens and you suddenly feel upset but it looks trivial to the other person. You try to just let it go, but it keeps coming back. […]
What the heck are you waiting for?
Your Happiness Matters Okay, so you aren’t happy with the way things are. That’s not so bad, right? Everyone has to put up with bad stuff. True enough. Life can be full of awful stuff, and there’s nothing we can do about it. It’s a virtue to be able to put up with life’s hard […]