I can help you figure it out.
I work with individuals, though my main focus is couples and relationships. That includes working with people going through a major upsetting event. I help couples who who have had longstanding problems when it’s getting to be too much. I also work with couples that have less serious issues to grow closer and iron out unhealthy or painful patterns. I am often the person people turn to after a string of unsuccessful therapists. Why? My style is direct but caring. If you have ever spent months getting tired of hearing yourself talk and nothing changing, you will be pleasantly surprised. I cut to the chase, and I show you what you haven’t seen. I help you find out what is blocking you from what you want, whether it’s in your marriage, your career, or somewhere else that’s vital to your best life.
Often times I work with singles to navigate the ups and downs of finding or building a great relationship.
I have also spent years working with those in grief. The loss of a loved one is probably the most difficult relationship problem there is. Because the rest of the world seems to be going on as usual, it can feel incredibly lonely and bewildering. You can ease that pain and find a way through it by working with an experienced counselor or a grief support group.
First things first: Learning and growing in a decades long marriage and seeing this stuff work from the inside out has (and continues to be) the best education. Nothing beats raising children, managing finances, and having your own arguments and problems for being helpful to others. But you probably want to know about the formal training so here goes: I received my M.A. in Human Development Counseling from the University of Illinois at Springfield. I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor, and a Nationally Certified Counselor.
Memberships & Advanced Training
- American Counseling Association
- The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
- National Board of Certified Counselors
- International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
- Advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
- Member of Advisory Board for Department of Human Development Counseling at the University of Illinois at Springfield.
- Gottman Level I training in Couples Therapy
These are my educational and professional achievements. But research into the best outcomes in therapy seem to all point to one thing: fit. If you feel a strong alliance with your counselor, if you like her, if she “gets” you — you have the very best chance of improvement. The key is that I work hard to get to know you and understand your life and your perspective. That’s the best way to help you get where you want to go.